The Grace Fueled Wife: Marriage Advice, Emotional Intimacy, Communication & Conflict Resolution
Are you sitting in a marriage that feels empty? Struggling to connect with your husband or wondering why communication in your marriage feels so hard? Maybe you feel lonely in your marriage even though you’re still living under the same roof.
Maybe you’re telling yourself you’re just sticking it out for the kids… and what really keeps you in the marriage is your commitment to God.
If this is you, I’ve been there. And I want to help you reconnect in your marriage, rebuild emotional intimacy, and feel cherished again.
Hey, I’m Beatriz Vargas — a Christian marriage coach, Jesus-loving wife, and mom. I’ve been married for over 15 years, but for the first five years of our marriage we struggled with constant conflict, poor communication, and emotional disconnection.
I was busy telling my husband all the things he was doing wrong — what he needed to change, how he needed Jesus, and what he needed to do to make me happy.
We tried marriage counseling, small groups, and all the things we were told would fix our marriage. Nothing worked… and eventually we separated.
But learning how communication, emotional safety, and grace actually work inside a marriage changed everything.
Today, my husband and I have the affectionate, emotionally connected marriage I once thought was impossible.
On The Grace Fueled Wife Podcast, you’ll learn how to:
• communicate more effectively with your husband
• break unhealthy conflict cycles in marriage
• rebuild emotional intimacy and connection
• stop feeling lonely in your marriage
• navigate difficult conversations with grace
• strengthen your Christian marriage even when your husband isn’t changing
If you feel like you’re the only one trying to save your marriage… if you’re tired of having the same arguments over and over… or if you’re longing to feel close again, this podcast will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.
Each week we talk about communication in marriage, conflict resolution, emotional intimacy, and how faith and grace can help restore connection in even the most difficult seasons of marriage.
So grab your journal, take a deep breath, and let’s start creating the connected, grace-fueled marriage you’ve been praying for.
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Episodes
Wednesday May 17, 2023
Wednesday May 17, 2023
Have you ever felt disrespected, angry, and so furious that you want to explode with anger? Yep, I’ve been there. Oftentimes, we have big reactions to our husband’s mood swings. In today’s episode, I’m breaking down an imperfect moment that I experienced recently as a Christian wife. While I’m not proud of how I reacted, I’m here to give you the tools to utilize so that you don’t walk away from an altercation with your husband feeling like you are in the wrong.
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Looking to heal your marriage, respond with grace, and feel connected to your husband again? I got you!!
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Thursday May 11, 2023
Thursday May 11, 2023
Is your marriage struggling as a result of your husband’s lack of a relationship with The Lord? Maybe you find yourself saying, “If he only knew..”
So often as a Christian wife, we find ourselves taking on many roles within our marriages and our home. After all, we control the atmosphere of our household, we should be able to control the level of his faith, right? If you find yourself wishing that your husband would have a closer relationship with God and a deeper desire and devotion to his Christian faith, this episode is for you!_____________________________
Need help with communicating with him in a way that can avoid a fight and STILL let you express your needs? I got you!!
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Tuesday Apr 25, 2023
Tuesday Apr 25, 2023
If you're anything like me you have probably made one (or more) of these 4 mistakes when trying to save your marriage. The key is now that you're aware of it, what will you do to fix those mistakes in the future?
1 - Trying to do it alone (without any help or guidance)
2 - Focus only on your husband's mistakes and faults
3 - Live in fear (rather than in your faith)
4- Give up their power!
Need help with that? I got you!!
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Tuesday Apr 18, 2023
Tuesday Apr 18, 2023
Are you TIRED of having to carry the workload of keeping up with the daily chores of your home and trying to simultaneously balance ALL the other things? Yep, I’ve been there! I’m here to help with a few quick tips that are guaranteed to lighten your load and empower your partner to support youWhen thinking about how to go from doing it all on your own to sharing the load with your partner, it starts with communication. It can be as simple as you telling your husband directly how you feel and what you need from him.
Inside The Grace Fueled Marriage Method Course, we call this an “I” statement. “I feel ______(insert emotion) when______.”“I feel overwhelmed when I see the dishes in the sick. Can you help me?” Let’s ditch the passive-aggressive tendencies and strive to be direct in our communication. Let him know how this feeling impacts how you are able to show up for him. “I would like to ___ (the thing he wants) without ____ (bad behavior you are doing) so that we can ____.”“I would like to have company over without yelling at you when I’m frustrated so that we can enjoy having time with our friends.”
Remember, if he actually helps, respond in gratitude and let go of perfection. It doesn’t have to be your way, it just needs to be done. RESOURCES:EP74: How to get what you want without nagging.
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Tuesday Apr 11, 2023
Tuesday Apr 11, 2023
If you’ve felt stuck in your marriage because you're so unhappy that you've thought about leaving your husband but know that God hates divorce, this episode is for you!
This is one of my most frequently asked questions. As Christian women, we're committed to our marriages but sometimes, the conviction we feel as a Christian wife leads us to feel stuck or trapped.
In this episode, we review some questions to ask yourself to help bring some clarity. 1- Have you given him a safe place to share?
2- Have you taken the time to heal your OWN trauma?3- Have you taken time to work on your marital friendship?4- Have you set strong boundaries and communicated them clearly?
We can not expect to receive what we are not willing to give. In what areas have we fallen short? If you’re staying together for the kids, the appearances, the ease, it’s time to take inventory, my friend. Ask yourself these questions and sit with God for the answers.
Let Him tell you if you're blameless. It's our job to go where God leads and surrender the outcome to him. Whatever the answer is will truly be the best thing for you!
RESOURCES MENTIONED:Book: Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. John Townsend & Henry CloudCourse: The Grace Fueled Marriage Method
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Tuesday Apr 04, 2023
Tuesday Apr 04, 2023
Have you found yourself operating out of a place of fear within your marriage? Maybe you have a fear of finding something inappropriate on your spouse’s phone or computer. This is extremely common in marriages, but that doesn’t mean it’s healthy!
Last week, we chatted about triggers as part of our boundaries series. It’s possible that the reason you’re feeling fear around this could be that this topic is a sensitive trigger in your marriage. Infidelity, past transgressions, and more could all be contributing to this fear.
If you’re feeling triggered, ask yourself these questions. Is this a boundary that has been communicated? Was the boundary communicated clearly?What are the consequences if the boundary is not held?
We can communicate the boundary, but it’s HIS choice whether he is going to hold that boundary. We have to ask ourselves…How much are we trying to control? How much control do we need to let go of? We are likely holding onto control because of the fear of something that has happened in the past repeating itself, or because trust has been broken within your relationship. Let’s go a little deeper. There is a possibility that the fear is rooted in your need to protect yourself from harm. This is your brain’s way of keeping you safe. However, if you can focus on perfect love and forgiveness, this will drive out all fear. Fear can not exist where there is perfect love. LINKS MENTIONED:
Restored 2 More
E46 - How to heal from Infidelity and my husband's porn addiction w. Restored2More Clint & Chastity Munoz
https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/?hl=en
Website: https://restored2more.com/
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Friday Mar 31, 2023
Friday Mar 31, 2023
Haven't we all been there? Everything is going great in our marriage and one day he says or does something to trigger you, emotions run high and all of a sudden you're back on the crazy cycle of fighting again.
This week we learn to handle those triggers with grace. We talk about getting curious instead of reacting as well as learn how we can start setting and enforcing boundaries without being manipulative.
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Tuesday Mar 21, 2023
Tuesday Mar 21, 2023
Are you looking to safeguard your marriage against contempt, disconnection, or even infidelity? Here are three steps proven to help!
1- Keep it Private:
Be sure to share with only a select circle of friends but don't be so private that you perpetuate the lie that everyone should live happily ever after.
2- Watch your text messages and phone calls
Do the two of you REALLY need to be texting/ calling people of the opposite sex? I break it down for you here!
3- Prioritize your friendship:
How do you expect to grow old with him if you don't even like him? Work on improving your emotional intimacy!!!
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Tuesday Mar 14, 2023
Tuesday Mar 14, 2023
Sometimes marriage counselors get it wrong. I know that's a bold statement, and you might be wondering what I mean by that. But have you ever felt like your counseling "didn't work?"
I have.
In this week's episode, we're breaking down what marriage counselors can get wrong and what you may be missing in your marriage.
What your marriage truly needs is an emotional connection if you want your marriage to thrive. This means intimacy and the ability to be vulnerable without fear.
Tune in for my tips on having the most effective sessions for you and your spouse.
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Tuesday Mar 07, 2023
Tuesday Mar 07, 2023
In today's episode with Dana Che, we hear about her own marriage testimony, about the marital problems she and her husband faced, and how they overcame them through the help of the Holy Spirit.
We touch on the differences between marriage counseling and therapy versus marriage coaching. Ultimately each are important in different times and seasons. However, the main difference is counseling is talking about the problem, and coaching is finding solutions and results for the goals you have as a couple.
We dive into the question of how to get your husband to go to marriage counseling. The main question is why do you want your husband to go, what are the issues your marriage is facing, and can they be addressed through other means? Once we know our goal, we can work our way backwards to get there.
Men are often reluctant to go to counseling, but they may be open to reading a book together, listening to a podcast, or going to dinner with another couple who may provide insight into your situation.
If your marriage absolutely needs outside help, allow your husband to be a part of the process in choosing a counselor. Put the ball in his court. If he isn’t interested, offer some suggestions and let him choose. If he is adamant against it, this is where prayer comes in.
Pray for God to change your spouse's heart, continue to love your husband right where he is, and allow the Holy Spirit to soften that hard heart.
Ultimately it's up to God's timeline. We can't control our husbands, and will waste so much time trying to. Rather, we should suggest turning the focus on yourself, on ways you can improve and relinquishing that control over to God. In both of our testimonies as well as countless others, the change didn't come until we let go, and let God.
You can Follow Dana Che on Instagram and her website.
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