The Grace Fueled Wife | Communication, Intimacy, Restoration, Marriage
Are you sitting in a marriage that feels empty? Struggling to connect with your husband? Maybe you’re telling yourself you’re just sticking it out for the kids, and what really keeps you in the marriage is God.
If this is you, I’ve been there. My story is your story. I want to help you reconnect in marriage and feel cherished again.
Hey, I’m Beatriz, a Jesus loving wife and mom I’ve been married for 15 years, but for the past 10, I’ve actually had the affectionate and connected marriage I’ve always dreamed of!
What happened the first five years? Well, I was busy telling my husband all the things he was doing wrong, like how he needed Jesus and he needed to do to make me happy.
We tried marriage counseling, small groups, and all the things we were told would make our marriage better. Nothing worked and we separated.
How did I turn it around?
That’s what you’ll learn in this podcast - proven to communicate better, create more intimacy, and feel reconnected in your marriage again.
So if you’re ready to finally communicate effectively with your husband, so you can stop fighting and be on the same team again, this podcast is for you. Now grab that journal and let’s jump right in.
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Friday Mar 31, 2023
Friday Mar 31, 2023
Haven't we all been there? Everything is going great in our marriage and one day he says or does something to trigger you, emotions run high and all of a sudden you're back on the crazy cycle of fighting again.
This week we learn to handle those triggers with grace. We talk about getting curious instead of reacting as well as learn how we can start setting and enforcing boundaries without being manipulative.
Need help with that? I got you!! That's why I created The Grace Fueled Marriage Method - Simply Check out: https://beatrizvargas.com/the-grace-fueled-marriage-method
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Tuesday Mar 21, 2023
Tuesday Mar 21, 2023
Are you looking to safeguard your marriage against contempt, disconnection, or even infidelity? Here are three steps proven to help!
1- Keep it Private:
Be sure to share with only a select circle of friends but don't be so private that you perpetuate the lie that everyone should live happily ever after.
2- Watch your text messages and phone calls
Do the two of you REALLY need to be texting/ calling people of the opposite sex? I break it down for you here!
3- Prioritize your friendship:
How do you expect to grow old with him if you don't even like him? Work on improving your emotional intimacy!!!
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Tuesday Mar 14, 2023
Tuesday Mar 14, 2023
Sometimes marriage counselors get it wrong. I know that's a bold statement, and you might be wondering what I mean by that. But have you ever felt like your counseling "didn't work?"
I have.
In this week's episode, we're breaking down what marriage counselors can get wrong and what you may be missing in your marriage.
What your marriage truly needs is an emotional connection if you want your marriage to thrive. This means intimacy and the ability to be vulnerable without fear.
Tune in for my tips on having the most effective sessions for you and your spouse.
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Tuesday Mar 07, 2023
Tuesday Mar 07, 2023
In today's episode with Dana Che, we hear about her own marriage testimony, about the marital problems she and her husband faced, and how they overcame them through the help of the Holy Spirit.
We touch on the differences between marriage counseling and therapy versus marriage coaching. Ultimately each are important in different times and seasons. However, the main difference is counseling is talking about the problem, and coaching is finding solutions and results for the goals you have as a couple.
We dive into the question of how to get your husband to go to marriage counseling. The main question is why do you want your husband to go, what are the issues your marriage is facing, and can they be addressed through other means? Once we know our goal, we can work our way backwards to get there.
Men are often reluctant to go to counseling, but they may be open to reading a book together, listening to a podcast, or going to dinner with another couple who may provide insight into your situation.
If your marriage absolutely needs outside help, allow your husband to be a part of the process in choosing a counselor. Put the ball in his court. If he isn’t interested, offer some suggestions and let him choose. If he is adamant against it, this is where prayer comes in.
Pray for God to change your spouse's heart, continue to love your husband right where he is, and allow the Holy Spirit to soften that hard heart.
Ultimately it's up to God's timeline. We can't control our husbands, and will waste so much time trying to. Rather, we should suggest turning the focus on yourself, on ways you can improve and relinquishing that control over to God. In both of our testimonies as well as countless others, the change didn't come until we let go, and let God.
You can Follow Dana Che on Instagram and her website.
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Monday Feb 27, 2023
Monday Feb 27, 2023
We are wrapping up our series on intimacy this week. Today, we're talking about the number one way to divorce-proof your marriage. You can have all of the communication tools in the world, but if you fail to do this one thing, your marriage could be at risk.
The number one way to divorce-proof your marriage is by making deposits as a couple into the love tank of your marriage. The idea is to consistently make deposits into the tank. Then, in difficult times, you can pull from the reserves, and there will be enough leftover to sustain you.
When a couple only makes withdrawals, eventually the tank runs dry, and small disagreements can become full-blown arguments.
My goal is to help you prevent that from happening. We are all human, and we will inevitably fail our spouse in some way. However, when there is love left in the tank, it is far more likely we will give each other grace and move forward.
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Tuesday Feb 21, 2023
Tuesday Feb 21, 2023
Intimacy in a marriage is something we all want and need, but we don't always prioritize it. If you are looking for tips on how to reignite intimacy in your marriage, today's podcast episode is for you!
I touch on three tangible ways you can build more intimacy with your spouse in your marriage today.
1. Building Trust
When you have trust in your marriage, you know your spouse has your best interest at heart, and you are on the same team. You know they aren't going to hurt you, physically or emotionally. Intimacy requires vulnerability, and the only way to be truly vulnerable with your spouse is to have that shared trust.
2. You Can Complain But You Can't Criticize
In order to build intimacy in your marriage, you need to be able to express your feelings. You can't have trust and safety, if you feel like your voice isn't being heard. The goal is to express frustrations with a specific action of your spouse rather than attacking their character. By attacking your spouse's character, it puts them on the defensive, and it breaks the trust in your marriage. When you are complaining, you are talking about the action. When you are criticizing, you are talking about their character.
3. Focus on Shared AND Individual Interests
For intimacy in marriage to thrive, you both need to feel comfortable to pursue your own interests. This may seem counterintuitive, but by having separate interests, it shows you respect your spouse enough to allow him to be his own person, and vice-versa. By giving your spouse freedom (within the boundaries of your marriage), you are showing that you respect his individuality. You can then come back together and enjoy your shared interests.
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Friday Feb 17, 2023
Friday Feb 17, 2023
The key to building a strong foundation for your marriage is not just communication or problem-solving skills. It’s about something so much simpler.
Having a rock-solid foundation for your marriage starts with building an amazing friendship! So often we have these great relationships with our besties but we fail to have that same relationship translate to our marriages.
In this episode, you’ll learn these 4 ways to build that friendship! But don’t just read them here listen in to learn how to apply them to your life today!
1- Reserve time for fun
2- Approach him with curiosity
3- Regular “business” check-ins
4- Do things alongside him
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Wednesday Feb 01, 2023
Wednesday Feb 01, 2023
Have you ever gotten really excited for date night only to have it ruined by an argument or a fight? Take it from me, the girl who fought on her honeymoon and countless dates after… It’s NO FUN!
In this episode, we discuss how you can protect your marriage and your treasured date nights from an untimely argument.
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Tuesday Jan 24, 2023
Tuesday Jan 24, 2023
Hey Mama!
Recently, I've been dealing with prolonged stress which led to feelings of anxiety and burnout. I’ve since thought a lot about its effects on marriage and had to share!
While anxiety is characterized by feelings of constant fear and worry, making it difficult to connect with our partners, burnout is different.
Burnout can manifest as physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion, leaving us feeling drained and unable to engage in the emotional and physical aspects of our relationships. Burnout is a result of prolonged stress and anxiety!
It's important to remember - this is more normal than you think! Many of us are going through the same thing. That’s why it's so crucial for couples to be open and honest with each other about their struggles and to work together to find ways to support one another during this challenging time AND to protect their marriages from these external pressures.
Some tips to help alleviate the effects of anxiety and burnout on your marriage include:
Prioritizing self-care and making time for self-reflection
Communicating openly and honestly with your husband about your feelings
Making a conscious effort to connect with your partner, whether it be through a shared activity or simply spending quality time together
Finding ways to de-stress and relax together, such as taking a walk or praying.
Remember, it's okay to not be okay and it's okay to ask for help. If you or your partner are struggling with anxiety or burnout, consider reaching out to a therapist who can help!
With love and grace,
Beatriz Vargas
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Thursday Jan 19, 2023
Thursday Jan 19, 2023
Ever worried that you married the wrong man? Maybe your husband isn’t spiritual enough, affectionate enough, or proactive enough. Perhaps, he’s content to sit back and let you handle most of the things around the house. Maybe you’ve thought there is no way God meant for you to be married to this man.
These were some of the same thoughts my client secretly held, and to be honest, these are some thoughts I held at one time as well.
In this episode, we discuss what scripture says about this and how we can reframe our thoughts to bring more connection, healing, hope and intimacy in your marriage.
I can’t wait to hear your thoughts on this!
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