The Grace Fueled Wife: Marriage Advice, Emotional Intimacy, Communication & Conflict Resolution
Are you sitting in a marriage that feels empty? Struggling to connect with your husband or wondering why communication in your marriage feels so hard? Maybe you feel lonely in your marriage even though you’re still living under the same roof.
Maybe you’re telling yourself you’re just sticking it out for the kids… and what really keeps you in the marriage is your commitment to God.
If this is you, I’ve been there. And I want to help you reconnect in your marriage, rebuild emotional intimacy, and feel cherished again.
Hey, I’m Beatriz Vargas — a Christian marriage coach, Jesus-loving wife, and mom. I’ve been married for over 15 years, but for the first five years of our marriage we struggled with constant conflict, poor communication, and emotional disconnection.
I was busy telling my husband all the things he was doing wrong — what he needed to change, how he needed Jesus, and what he needed to do to make me happy.
We tried marriage counseling, small groups, and all the things we were told would fix our marriage. Nothing worked… and eventually we separated.
But learning how communication, emotional safety, and grace actually work inside a marriage changed everything.
Today, my husband and I have the affectionate, emotionally connected marriage I once thought was impossible.
On The Grace Fueled Wife Podcast, you’ll learn how to:
• communicate more effectively with your husband
• break unhealthy conflict cycles in marriage
• rebuild emotional intimacy and connection
• stop feeling lonely in your marriage
• navigate difficult conversations with grace
• strengthen your Christian marriage even when your husband isn’t changing
If you feel like you’re the only one trying to save your marriage… if you’re tired of having the same arguments over and over… or if you’re longing to feel close again, this podcast will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.
Each week we talk about communication in marriage, conflict resolution, emotional intimacy, and how faith and grace can help restore connection in even the most difficult seasons of marriage.
So grab your journal, take a deep breath, and let’s start creating the connected, grace-fueled marriage you’ve been praying for.
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Episodes
Monday Feb 27, 2023
Monday Feb 27, 2023
We are wrapping up our series on intimacy this week. Today, we're talking about the number one way to divorce-proof your marriage. You can have all of the communication tools in the world, but if you fail to do this one thing, your marriage could be at risk.
The number one way to divorce-proof your marriage is by making deposits as a couple into the love tank of your marriage. The idea is to consistently make deposits into the tank. Then, in difficult times, you can pull from the reserves, and there will be enough leftover to sustain you.
When a couple only makes withdrawals, eventually the tank runs dry, and small disagreements can become full-blown arguments.
My goal is to help you prevent that from happening. We are all human, and we will inevitably fail our spouse in some way. However, when there is love left in the tank, it is far more likely we will give each other grace and move forward.
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Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coaching
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Tuesday Feb 21, 2023
Tuesday Feb 21, 2023
Intimacy in a marriage is something we all want and need, but we don't always prioritize it. If you are looking for tips on how to reignite intimacy in your marriage, today's podcast episode is for you!
I touch on three tangible ways you can build more intimacy with your spouse in your marriage today.
1. Building Trust
When you have trust in your marriage, you know your spouse has your best interest at heart, and you are on the same team. You know they aren't going to hurt you, physically or emotionally. Intimacy requires vulnerability, and the only way to be truly vulnerable with your spouse is to have that shared trust.
2. You Can Complain But You Can't Criticize
In order to build intimacy in your marriage, you need to be able to express your feelings. You can't have trust and safety, if you feel like your voice isn't being heard. The goal is to express frustrations with a specific action of your spouse rather than attacking their character. By attacking your spouse's character, it puts them on the defensive, and it breaks the trust in your marriage. When you are complaining, you are talking about the action. When you are criticizing, you are talking about their character.
3. Focus on Shared AND Individual Interests
For intimacy in marriage to thrive, you both need to feel comfortable to pursue your own interests. This may seem counterintuitive, but by having separate interests, it shows you respect your spouse enough to allow him to be his own person, and vice-versa. By giving your spouse freedom (within the boundaries of your marriage), you are showing that you respect his individuality. You can then come back together and enjoy your shared interests.
Wait!!! Before you go!
Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!
Work with me:
Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coaching
Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free.
Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity
Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider
I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife
Friday Feb 17, 2023
Friday Feb 17, 2023
The key to building a strong foundation for your marriage is not just communication or problem-solving skills. It’s about something so much simpler.
Having a rock-solid foundation for your marriage starts with building an amazing friendship! So often we have these great relationships with our besties but we fail to have that same relationship translate to our marriages.
In this episode, you’ll learn these 4 ways to build that friendship! But don’t just read them here listen in to learn how to apply them to your life today!
1- Reserve time for fun
2- Approach him with curiosity
3- Regular “business” check-ins
4- Do things alongside him
Wait!!! Before you go!
Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!
Work with me:
Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coaching
Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free.
Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity
Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider
I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife
Wednesday Feb 01, 2023
Wednesday Feb 01, 2023
Have you ever gotten really excited for date night only to have it ruined by an argument or a fight? Take it from me, the girl who fought on her honeymoon and countless dates after… It’s NO FUN!
In this episode, we discuss how you can protect your marriage and your treasured date nights from an untimely argument.
And don’t forget! If you want to win a $50 Amazon gift card, or a FREE 1:1 session, write a review, screenshot it send it to me, and share it on your IG stories. I will be picking two winners next week.
Wait!!! Before you go!
Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!
Work with me:
Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coaching
Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free.
Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity
Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider
I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife
Tuesday Jan 24, 2023
Tuesday Jan 24, 2023
Hey Mama!
Recently, I've been dealing with prolonged stress which led to feelings of anxiety and burnout. I’ve since thought a lot about its effects on marriage and had to share!
While anxiety is characterized by feelings of constant fear and worry, making it difficult to connect with our partners, burnout is different.
Burnout can manifest as physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion, leaving us feeling drained and unable to engage in the emotional and physical aspects of our relationships. Burnout is a result of prolonged stress and anxiety!
It's important to remember - this is more normal than you think! Many of us are going through the same thing. That’s why it's so crucial for couples to be open and honest with each other about their struggles and to work together to find ways to support one another during this challenging time AND to protect their marriages from these external pressures.
Some tips to help alleviate the effects of anxiety and burnout on your marriage include:
Prioritizing self-care and making time for self-reflection
Communicating openly and honestly with your husband about your feelings
Making a conscious effort to connect with your partner, whether it be through a shared activity or simply spending quality time together
Finding ways to de-stress and relax together, such as taking a walk or praying.
Remember, it's okay to not be okay and it's okay to ask for help. If you or your partner are struggling with anxiety or burnout, consider reaching out to a therapist who can help!
With love and grace,
Beatriz Vargas
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Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!
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Thursday Jan 19, 2023
Thursday Jan 19, 2023
Ever worried that you married the wrong man? Maybe your husband isn’t spiritual enough, affectionate enough, or proactive enough. Perhaps, he’s content to sit back and let you handle most of the things around the house. Maybe you’ve thought there is no way God meant for you to be married to this man.
These were some of the same thoughts my client secretly held, and to be honest, these are some thoughts I held at one time as well.
In this episode, we discuss what scripture says about this and how we can reframe our thoughts to bring more connection, healing, hope and intimacy in your marriage.
I can’t wait to hear your thoughts on this!
Wait!!! Before you go!
Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!
Work with me:
The Grace Fueled Marriage Method: https://gracefueledmarriagemethod.com
Not ready to work with me yet? Feel free to join my FREE Community!
Join me in The Grace Fueled Wives Club on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity/
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Thursday Jan 12, 2023
Thursday Jan 12, 2023
Hey Mama!
Do you want to learn how to fight fair and have healthy arguments in your marriage? Learning the why, where, when, and how to call an effective “time out” could save your marriage arguments from escalating up the crazy ladder and stop a fight in its tracks!
Bonus - I’m teaching you to do this in a way that keeps the discussion feeling safe and secure in love. You’ll learn my 7 do’s and don’t for calling a time-out to fight fair.
This week’s episode is part of my series on (2)5 rules for fighting fair in marriage but this one was so juicy it had to get it’s own show!
With love and grace,
Beatriz
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Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!
Work with me:
The Grace Fueled Marriage Method: https://gracefueledmarriagemethod.com
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Join me in The Grace Fueled Wives Club on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity/
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Wednesday Jan 04, 2023
Wednesday Jan 04, 2023
Are you into writing down a word or phrase for the year? Over the past few years, God has been faithful to give me a word to live by. In 2023, he has given me a phrase that was so profound, I had to share it! Listen in to what God has to say about your life and marriage and perhaps sit with him to hear your own!
Wait!!! Before you go!
Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!
Work with me:
The Grace Fueled Marriage Method: https://gracefueledmarriagemethod.com
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Join me in The Grace Fueled Wives Club on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity/
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Monday Dec 19, 2022
Monday Dec 19, 2022
Do you ever fight in your marriage? Sure you do! Every relationship, even healthy ones experience disagreements. The difference between a healthy marriage and an unhealthy one is how you fight.
This episode will give you 5 tips to fight fair in your marriage. There are plenty more than 5 but we will take this slow and I'll be giving you ALL the tips over the next few weeks.
A marriage is a place where you need to feel safe for there to be true intimacy, without safety, there is no intimacy. These 5 tips will help you to feel safer and more intimate in your marriage.
This week, you’ll learn the following:
1 - How to use “I feel” statements
2 - The difference between a response and a reaction and how to use them
3 - The Big NO for generalizations
4 - The big No for name calling
5 - The # 1 basic fighting rule. This is NEVER allowed.
Wait!!! Before you go!
Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!
Work with me:
The Grace Fueled Marriage Method: https://gracefueledmarriagemethod.com
Not ready to work with me yet? Feel free to join my FREE Community!
Join me in The Grace Fueled Wives Club on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity/
Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news. Gracefueledwifesteps.gr8.com
Friday Dec 09, 2022
Friday Dec 09, 2022
Do you ever fight in your marriage? Sure you do! Every relationship, even healthy ones experience disagreements. The difference between a healthy marriage and an unhealthy one is how you fight.
This episode will give you 5 tips to fight fair in your marriage. There are plenty more than 5 but we will take this slow and I'll be giving you ALL the tips over the next few weeks.
Wait!!! Before you go!
Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!
Work with me:
The Grace Fueled Marriage Method: https://gracefueledmarriagemethod.com
Not ready to work with me yet? Feel free to join my FREE Community!
Join me in The Grace Fueled Wives Club on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity/
Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news. Gracefueledwifesteps.gr8.com